Why I Don’t Do Screen Time Limits (and What I Do Instead)

Let’s get straight to the point. I might get some messages saying I’m wrong, but here it is: I don’t set screen time limits for my kids. Honestly? I don’t think I ever will.

Do I believe screen time limits are harmful? Not at all. But I refuse to set a timer that cuts off their viewing at the 30-minute mark just because it's a popular guideline on social media. Instead, I embrace what I call intentional screen time.

Some days, the TV stays off completely. Other days, it might be on for three hours. Life with kids is unpredictable, and our screen use changes to meet our family’s needs.

I will admit that I am strict when it comes to tablets and phones. My kids only use them during long road trips or flights, which only happens around eight times a year. Thus, tablets aren’t part of our everyday routine.

That said, as a mom of three, there are times I need my children to be quiet and still. Sometimes it’s during a sibling’s nap. Other times, it’s because the exhaustion of pregnancy, especially in the first or third trimester, has me completely worn out.

And if you’re thinking, “Why don’t your kids just quietly color while you lay down?” I can guess you haven’t met two energetic little boys. Coloring quietly and without supervision? With crayons that stay on the paper? That's unlikely. The art supplies are more likely to be chewed on than to remain on the paper.

This is where intentional screen time plays a vital role. We select low-stimulation, educational options. When I turn on a screen, it's for a specific reason. Sometimes I need to fold laundry, finish paperwork, or take a moment to breathe. If you’ve been pregnant and raising toddlers, you understand.

Understanding Intentional Screen Time

Intentional screen time means being deliberate about how and when screens are used in our home. It’s not about mindlessly dropping the kids in front of the TV for hours. Instead, it’s about choosing content that aligns with our family values and needs.

When I say “intentional,” I mean being actively involved in choosing what my kids watch and understanding how it impacts their behavior and learning. This balanced approach ensures that screen time is only a part of a well-rounded day.

How to Practice Intentional Screen Time

Here are some quick tips to incorporate intentional screen time into your routine:

• Limit choices. Narrowing down options can help prevent decision fatigue. I curate a small selection of shows or educational programs that I trust, allowing my kids to choose from quality options without getting lost in endless scrolling.

  
  

• Select aligned content. I prioritize shows and movies that promote positive messages and learning. Whether it's a documentary about animals or a fun animated series teaching problem-solving, I want the content to enrich their understanding.

  
  

When the screen is on, I also engage with my kids by asking questions, starting discussions, and joining in on the fun. This interaction makes the experience more engaging and helps me understand what they are learning.

Creating a focused viewing environment is also essential. I minimize distractions, like noisy toys, and make sure the viewing space is cozy for shared enjoyment. Along with this, I balance screen time with other activities such as outdoor play and reading, which helps my children develop a range of skills.

The Rewards of Intentional Screen Time

Practicing intentional screen time has brought numerous benefits to my family.

First, my kids are genuinely engaged with what they watch. Quality programming often leads to meaningful discussions or new knowledge. For example, after watching a nature documentary, they might excitefully share facts about different animals.

Second, it cultivates a sense of responsibility. Knowing that screen time comes with guidelines makes my kids respect it more, understanding that it is a privilege.

Lastly, it allows me to enjoy some much-needed downtime. As a busy mom, I cherish those moments to recharge, and intentional screen time provides that without the guilt.

Wrapping It Up

There you have it. I don’t set screen time limits for my kids, and I’m not planning to. Instead, I prioritize intentional screen time that reflects our family’s values and needs.

Every family is unique, and not every approach will work for everyone. The key is finding a balance that feels right for you and your children.

Remember, parenting doesn’t require perfection. It’s about discovering what works best for your family. So if the pressure to enforce strict screen time limits feels overwhelming, take a moment to breathe and consider approaching screen time with a sense of purpose.

After all, it’s not solely about screen time; it’s about the meaningful moments we create together as a family.